Much is happening in Second Life

OMG, Second Live has been crazy since my last post. So many wonderful things have happened and one very challenging thing. Lillith has been very sick. I know this is very hard on Lillith she loves being here in Second Life. I to my best to keep things together here while she recovers. I don't want her to have to worry about anything. She just needs to heal. I will be here when she gets back. I look forward to sharing all the following great things with her. My love and energy has all been directed to her healing.

The good things have varied from simple and cool to major and exciting. The first cool thing that I can't wait to to share with Lilith is that Hard Rust moved the double dance pole to the front stage. Lillith and I love to dance together on the double dance pole. It really makes working a real pleasure

The second good thing was being asked to enter the Calender Girl competition. It is nice to be recognized. I didn't think I wanted to do it, but when I was asked I decided it was a good thing to do. With Lillith being sick I had to take my own photo. Lillith was online long enough to tweak it in Photo Shop. (I feel bad about it now. I didn't realize she was in pain when she did it. I would have found a way to do it myself if I had known) I will let you all know when and where to go and vote for me.

The third good thing is the new house I found for Lillith and me. We were thinking of getting another home for just us after we were married. I received a notice that the tropical escort island of Purrfect Droom was going to offer a very limited number of houses to rent. I jumped on it and rented a very nice house for Lilith and me. I think Lillith will love it. She only had a brief look at it while she was feeling pretty miserable.

While all of this has been going on, I have been worried about Lillith and missing her so very much. I hope she will be back soon.

Wow!!!! Three Months!!!

Lillith and I have been together for more than three months now and it only seems to get better. I know three months doesn't seem like much in a first life relationship but Second Life it so time compressed it is much longer here. We have had all the usual challenges that new relationships will have but we are good at talking about what we are feeling. We just know we love each other and work through anything that comes up. We make sure we are always open and honest to each other. We know Second Life is a different world than First Life so relationships are different. As long as we share with each other and know that our hearts are forever bound to each other, we have only grown stronger in our love. We have still managed to enjoy SL while managing our SL careers and stay madly in-love with each other.

I could go on and on and on about how happy and in-love Lillith and I are but it would bore and irritate most of you. I just wanted to make a statement about our 3 month milestone.

I also know couples in SL that have been married a year and are still going strong. So, even if you have no interest in a relationship in SL, don't be surprised if one day you are knocked off you feet by someone when you least expect it. It is a rabbit hole well worth jumping into and the ride is heavenly.

I love you, Lillith DeVaux.

Always new things to understand in SL

I meet so many people in my occupation as Stripper. I really enjoy meeting people and learning new things about Second life. I also learn a lot about people. To say people are very complex would be a huge understatement. Second Live give so much room to express what we may or may not know about ourselves. Me for example really didn't surface until my creator opened up my SL account an let me loose. Others discover things about themselves as they discover things about other people. I think there is a lot more going on in SL than just a role playing game. People are acting out things that they carry back to their first life.

I have met some wonderful people on Second Life many become friends, some are clients and some friends become lovers that Lillith and I share our time with. Each person is a complex piece of a bigger picture. It grows out from the avatar to their creator or handler. The creator may be me more than one avatar if they have Alts. The creator is a part of a family or community in "real" world. Connect through that network to a town, city, county, country, continent, planet, solar system, galaxy, universe, energy and back again to the energy in the act of creation.

Some how, we know when we meet some well formed pixels in Second Life there is something more there beyond the visuals and text. Something flowing through the the universe outside the network. Something that says I want to know this person. I don't mean the creator behind that person but this manifestation of something in consciousness of the that creator. This is all part of a puzzle made up of billions of pieces. It is so vast when you try to step back far enough to see it you end up in another universe.

I think Second Life creates a model that allows us to see more facets of the human psyche. Some of it is amazing and beautiful some of it is quite terrifying. I think is is better to be acted out here where it is somewhat harmless. It is when it is carried back to ones first life that it could create real problems or real benefits.

This was going to be a preface to a discussion about someone I met in SL. It seems to have taken its own path. I think I will just create a new post about her.

Losing My SL Virginity Part Two

It has been so long since I wrote about about my history in Second Life, I have to go back and read my old posts. OMG, how could I forget? It was about losing virginity. I still owe you all part two.

My first sexual encounter with a male avatar happened totally as an accident. It is actually a very funny story as look back on it. I had Lillith laughing her ass off when I told it to her. At the time it was significant and almost traumatic but I do find if very funny now. Never underestimate how naive we are as newbies.

When I was looking for work as a dancer and still camping to make money. I used go up to Flashbacks Strip Club above the lounge when was empty to practice on the dance poles. I think they even had a couple that paid out Lindens.

There was a sports car in the corner with a dance pole on the hood. I thought that would be fun so I clicked on it to try it out. It asked permission to animate my avatar. This was new to me and I clicked on "Yes" and started dancing. The club was empty and dark with out a single other avatar on the map.

I had been dancing for about twenty minutes when I noticed a green dot on the map not far from me. I looked around feeling a bit of panic and embarrassment. I could see a guy standing in the corner watching me. My first reaction was to stand up and teleport out of there but when but I missed the stand up button and clicked on the car which put my avatar into a very suggestive and invitational pose. This guy took it as an invitation and next think I knew, we were going at it. He must have taken over the menu because we kept shift positions and he had me me all over that car, on the hood, on the boot, in the seats and behind the car. It was all over in minutes. We never took our clothes off and I don't think he even had a penis. (maybe it doesn't count then?) but it was amazingly exciting.

I have no idea who he was but it was that experience that started me thinking about becoming an escort. It seemed fairly harmless but exciting. I also wanted to make sure I was in control from that point on. The best escorts are always in control of the experience even if the client thinks otherwise.

I thought it was interesting that the last pose in series left me standing with my back to the car and the guy with my arms crossed in a pouting sort of way. That was when he poofed away. It was an ironic end of a Second Life changing experience.

Equal Opportunity, Second Life flattens the playing field

I have been talking and thinking about first life class or caste systems and how they don't really apply in Second Life. Unless you tell someone, Nobody knows your race, religion, gender, health, income and age in Second Life.

Everyone arrives in Second Life the same way. People who have a mediocre first life can have a flamboyant Second Life. One could have several alternate Avatars and experience different aspects of life that are impossible in their first life.

It is up to you to be the person you want to be. I know of several people who have confessed to having a lonely and uneventful first life but are very popular and respected in Second Life. Some people develop their artistic talents or learn to build in Second Life. Others learn to socialize.

I have female friends in Second Life that are male in their first life. It has been a wonderful learning experience for them. Everyone of the has confessed to me that they had know idea what dicks guys could be. They have become more sensitive to the needs and feeling of women in there first life.

On the other hand, women who come to Second Life have total freedom here. We can look however we choose, We can dance, party, take lovers, create drama and walk away if we want. We can build, teach, own business and own property. As long as you never give out any first life information, it is totally safe environment. I have explored places and had experiences I would dream of in my first life.

The real point of all this is that when you come to Second Life you are accepted as a fellow avatar and it us up to you to become what you want to be. There are hundreds of free classes you can take. Most people in Second Life will try to be helpful if you politely ask questions. Remember, nobody knows who you are in you first life so you have no reason to be embarrassed to ask any question you want.

Go have fun, explore, learn and be somebody.

RL and SL

Well, I have been a away from my blog too long. I think about writing very often. I just haven't had the time lately. My creator seems to think the Real Life should have a higher priority than Second Life. I disagree, but then I don't exist in Real Life so I am a bit biased.

My life has had some changes. The economy has effected my income. Tips are down, escorting has dropped off, I am spending more time Lillith and less time working. This isn't a complaint. It is just how things are for now. I just have to be more budget conscious.

Lillith and I are still crazy in love with each other. When she is online I just want to be with her. I figure I can work when she isn't on line. Sometimes just laying in her arms and talking is heaven to me. Sometimes we make love until we fall asleep together. It has been 3 months since we met. I can no longer remember or imagine my life with out her in it.

We have added a beloved friend to our little family. She has the most wonderful name of Starlite Infinity. How we met is a wonderful story of SL serendipity. I was laying on the rug in Lillith's and my bedroom watching the slide show Lillith made us. My multigadget radar popped up Starlite Infinity's name being in the area. I was so intrigued by the name, I used camera mode to check out who she was. She was in chat range standing across the street so I said "Hello". She was looking at renting the tree house across the street. I could tell she was a newbie. I told her about Twilight and gave her a landmark. We chatted a bit then said goodnight and poof she was gone. I later found out she had rented the apartment next to me in Twilight. We started chatting more and became friends. She later moved to new place, I visited her there and she visited Lillith's and my home. As our friendship grew closer I introduced her to Lillith and we have all become very close friends. I look forward to when Supersub and Starlite can meet and hang out with Lillith and me.

There have been some wonderful changes in Twilight. The populations has grown, Brenda and Lazlo have built more apartments. Lazlo is building a magnificent Art Museum and Gallery. I guess I sort of inspired it. My friend Kerry sent a notice about her art show. I went to see her work. When I saw her photographs, I knew Lazlo would like them so I sent him a teleport. When came to the show he bought several her works. While he was looking at the other artists there, he decided to build an art museum. Well he did and it is beautiful. It is right next to the Cathedral that Lillith and I are going to be married in. If you haven't been to Twilight yet. you should go there.

All in all, Second Life has been good. I hope to see you there sometime.

Relationships, Partnerships and Marriage in SL

Parsing the relationship matrices in Second life can be very confusing and tricky. This virtual world has so many opportunities and variations it is impossible to define a universal moral code. There are so many reasons why people are in in-world, which may effect their relationships in both realms.

I am only talking about intimate relations in this posts. I will discuss the wonderful deep friendships in SL at a later time.

Those who are mirrors of their first life are bound by what ever moral code they bring from their first life. If they are in a First Life relationship then they might feel a second life sexual encounter is cheating. If they are true to their values it will be avoided. Unfortunately for them, Second Life doesn't work that way. SL is serendipitous and mischievous in it's nature. If you don't want a romance in Second Life it will create one for you anyway. As I have mentioned in previous posts, something seems to able to reach through cyberspace and touch hearts. I fear the purist of these relationships are doomed to misery. If they never fulfill their Second Life desires SL will become too frustrating for them to keep coming to and if they do give in to their desires, the guilt will drive them apart eventually.

In contrast to the previous type there are the total porn crazy pleasure seekers. Mostly men often with female avatars. They are here for the sole purposes of acting out every sexual fantasy the have imagined. Strangely enough I have very little contact with them since the aren't about to pay for sex. They often end up having very wild times with those of their own kind. It is all visual for them so it doesn't really matter who is behind the Avatar as long as they are getting their rocks off.

The ones like me, completely free of First Life ties, have a different set of problems. I wasn't look for a long term relationship. (Galen smiles as she looks at her beautiful engagement ring and thinks of Lillith) It still happened. If you have read my earlier posts you know my profession in Second Life is in the sex trade as a stripper and escort. I can't say it is just about the money either. I really enjoy giving pleasure. This requires a bit more complexity in Lillith's and my ground rules. We both enjoy sex, and unlike guys, we don't wear out very fast. We both have clients to please and sometimes we get carried away with our coworkers. So, it isn't all work. Dancers can get pretty turned on watching each other and escorts will have sex with each other for fun and to sharing techniques. So when is it cheating?

I have heard that cheating is the number one reason people breakup SL I have also heard of First Life marriages collapsing because of SL relationships. That is why it is important to talk about it with your SL partner. Lillith and I have had several talks about our intimacy expectations and how it changes as the relationship grows. I do have my moments of insecurity and I am sure Lillith does too. I measure my actions by whether or not it would hurt Lillith. I love Lillith, she is part of me now which sets her apart from everyone else. We also have SupurSub as a part of our life now and we both love her dearly.

I think out of all this comes responsibility. My actions can have an effect on people I love. It is unthinkable for me to knowingly hurt Lillith or Supersub. I believe what would constitute cheating between Lillith and I would be anything that dilutes or puts at risk the love we share. We don't ask that either one of us stop having sex with others. We have agreed to not have sex with new partners with out the other one present and participating at least the first time. I think this has at least two functions. First it is statement to the new partner that Lillith and I are together and no one comes between us. Second, it makes sure that any new partner in our life is compatible with both of us.

What this comes down to is simple, talk to your partner, be clear about your feelings, let your partner know what your needs and expectations are and listen to theirs. You will find that this can also work in your First Life. It was on my mind so I though I would share it.